Your sister has been preparing for nearly two years to study in Japan, constantly either learning Japanese or on the way to learning it.

She chose three professors, but just before applying, she found out that none of them were accepting students or their spots were already filled. What kind of luck is that?

Now she's starting to look for a job, and I’ve realized that recent graduates who only focus on exam preparation have a very weak perception of the real world—they don’t understand how society actually operates, hold pessimistic and self-denying attitudes about their abilities, and neither gentle encouragement nor practical skill guides can successfully reach them. When you give her practical steps or solutions, she just argues back.

I asked her what her ideal job would look like—such as salary, commute distance, job responsibilities, target audience, and other factors—listing as many details as possible, then ranking them by importance. Using this needs list to filter job options in reverse, you can find the most suitable job for her current stage.

This is a method a former client used to help me select a marriage partner. I applied it to job hunting, and it works just as well. My previous job brought me great happiness; although the salary was average, it truly was the ideal job for those years.

But she said she doesn’t want this or that either. When it comes to choosing a job, it turns into: well, I can try this, I can try that.

The most frightening thing is that when her child encounters a problem, her first reaction isn’t to use AI to find a solution but to turn to mom. Maybe after experiencing some setbacks in society, she’ll learn.